Where is that Parent Manual?
I can't tell you how many times I have researched in my psychology books, on WebMD, and even Googled parenting questions. When I first became a mom I felt very strange asking simple questions to friends that already had babies. Probably, because I wanted to appear confident as a parent. If I only knew what I know now! Lucky for me I found that friend that made me feel comfortable and safe asking questions.
If I had to name only "one" book that I referenced religiously it would be; "The Science of Parenting, by Margot Sunderland". I may date myself but....I checked this book out from the Library many times and yes I said; "Checked it out from the Library."
There was something comforting to me about reading research-based information. It also helped to present the research to my husband when he tried to convince me to let our baby "Cry it Out" because his best-friends wife did it. Little did my husband know at the time that I was adamant about making sure our children were raised psychologically well adjusted and emotionally healthy. I think this obsession falls under I wanted "more" for our children.